Saturday, February 24, 2007

How do you treat your "friends"?

This questions popped into my head the other day as a situation had come up and it made me think. How do you treat your friends? Do you treat them with disrespect with disdain? Do you call them names and treat them in a verifiable crappy manner? When you're done hanging out with them, do you generally feel worse then before you hung out with them? Do they not even show the littlest amount of civility of decency when they're mad at you? Do they belittle your existence?

To me, friends should never make you feel any of those things that I mentioned above. When you hang out with friends, they should make you feel better not worse. They should never talk to you in a manner that is disrespectful for no reason. And if they do any of those things, are they really truly a friend?

friend [frend]- noun
1.a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
2.a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter
3.a person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile

I think friends should build each other up, not tear each other down. Should never talk to each other in a manner that belittles their existence. A friend should be supportive in your life and be there for you when they need them. Someone who is on "good terms with another". Jesus gives us the perfect example of what a friend should be, humble, honest (but not hurtful), kind, gentle, wise, gracious, merciful, forgiving, supportive... and the list can go on and on. When a moment arises that you should have a reason to be mad at one another yelling and cursing is not acceptable behavior for friends. They should be able to talk it out without the violence and hostility. No friendship is perfect and you are going to have moments when you are going to be mad. And even if you're not wrong, sometimes we still apologize, swallow our pride, so that we can get past this point because you know that the other person may not apologize. There comes a point when we have to be mature, and that is all that I expect from any of my friends when they get mad at me. A level of civility and decency because that is what we all deserve from our friends.

1 comment:

Nicole Leonard said...

You're my friend. :)